Ears are the Female G Spot

I heard a wonderful quote recently “For women, the best aphrodisiacs are words.   The G Spot is between her ears.   He who looks for it below there is wasting his time” Isabel Allende. This got me thinking about what women really want, so I thought I’d put fingers to keyboard and enlighten those of you who feel inspired to actually know. Here goes ….

When your relationship was new, remember how you expressed appreciation to your partner.   As women, our heart and sexual excitement are interlinked with being loved and appreciated, not just through physical touch but through hearing our partner tell us. If this connection is to stay open, we need regular verbal reassurance or our heart and libido shut down, like a battery looses its charge.

From a man’s perspective, they can come from the place of having said something once, so they don’t necessarily have to say it again, because she should know! This can be difficult for men to understand because men show love by making love. In other words, a man would prefer to learn what turns his woman on than to learn new ways to verbally communicate.

So, what’s the key? Words that come from the heart, words of appreciation, words of love. They need to be honest, she will know if they’re fake, mark my words.   When working with couples, I am constantly saying to the husbands, I know when your woman makes an effort you can see this effort and I’m sure you’re thinking she looks hot or smart or sexy or cute, however there seems to be a stop cock between the brain and the mouth and those thoughts never see the light of day. If you actually verbalise to her what you’re thinking you will be surprised at just how much she will like it and in turn she will show her appreciation to you. It’s not about waxing lyrical, writing poems, sending love letters (although that would be great too), it’s about being honest, respectful and loving, as well as spontaneous, all at the same it. It’s in you, you just have to trust yourself (and her) and go for it.

It’s not rocket science, however somehow that’s what it has been made out to be. Women use words as a way of showing love, so when we don’t get them back we can feel unloved. So what are you waiting for guys, open up the pipe between your brain and your mouth and let it flow.

The quote I would like to leave you with to close out this year I think is very appropriate:-

What’s more important, your relationship or your ego?