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Divorce May Be Down… But Are Couples Really Happier?
A headline in last weekend’s Sunday Telegraph caught my attention: “Divorce down but row goes up.” At first glance, that sounds like good news. Fewer couples are divorcing. But as a counsellor, I found myself asking a different question. Are relationships actually healthier, or are people simply staying together for different reasons? There are plenty…
Read MoreWhen Two People See the Same Situation Differently – Can We Find Common Ground?
Every disagreement usually begins with two people seeing the same situation differently. The challenge isn’t proving who’s right; it’s discovering enough common ground to move forward. Disagreements are a normal part of being human. They happen in relationships, families, friendships, workplaces and even within ourselves. Yet somewhere along the way, we have often learned to…
Read MoreMaxxing: Self-Improvement or the Pursuit of Perfection?
If you’ve spent any time on social media lately, you’ve probably come across the term “maxxing.” While it may sound like just another internet buzzword, it’s quickly becoming one of the biggest self-improvement trends—particularly among teenagers and young adults.
Read MoreHow Not to Take Things Personally
One of the biggest misconceptions is that people who take things personally are “too sensitive.” In reality, taking things personally is often a learned protective response, a learned behaviour. If you’ve grown up with criticism, rejection, unpredictability or emotional neglect, your brain naturally becomes hypervigilant for signs that you are being judged or abandoned or …
Read MoreWhy Do Some Relationships Survive Infidelity While Others Don’t?
Discovering that your partner has been unfaithful is devastating. For some couples, it’s the end of the relationship. For others, painful as it is, it becomes the beginning of a very different chapter. So, what makes the difference? More often than not, it isn’t the affair itself—it’s how each partner responds afterwards. Relationships are more…
Read MoreGut Instinct Verses Anxiety – When Infidelity Maybe Happening
Is there a difference between anxiety and our gut instinct? Yes there most certainly is. Both anxiety and intuition (“gut instinct”) can be felt in the body because they involve your nervous system. The key difference is often how they feel, what they do to your thinking, and whether they’re based on a real pattern…
Read MoreDo Men and Women Have Affairs for the Same Reasons?
When people discover a partner has been unfaithful, one of the first questions they ask is, Why? Was it about sex? Was it about love? Was the relationship already in crisis? For years, there has been a common belief that men have affairs primarily for sex, while women have affairs because they’re emotionally unfulfilled. While…
Read MoreDid COVID Change the Rules of Relationships?
“During the COVID-19 pandemic, relationship therapists reported an increase in both emotional and physical affairs. Rather than one gender being significantly more unfaithful than the other, the extraordinary stress of lockdowns, isolation and uncertainty exposed existing relationship vulnerabilities. Many affairs appeared to stem less from opportunity alone and more from unmet emotional needs, loneliness and…
Read MoreIll Equipped
What Jane Fonda’s Honesty at 88 Can Teach Women About Love, Relationships, and Life – Sunday Telegraph, Body & Soul article 21.6.2026. When I read the recent Body & Soul article featuring Jane Fonda at 88, I was struck not by her age, her accomplishments, or even her enduring influence, but by her honesty. In…
Read MoreWhen Your Gut Knows Before Your Head: The Subtle Signs Your Partner May Be Cheating
“Sometimes the hardest truth isn’t discovering someone has been unfaithful. It’s realising you sensed something wasn’t right long before you had any proof.” Infidelity is one of the most painful experiences a person can face. It doesn’t just break trust in a relationship—it can also make us question our judgement and wonder why we didn’t…
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