Crappy Chop Syndrome

I know this may sound bizarre however I have noticed lately there are a lot of people (mainly women) who are teaching their families they are less than everyone else.  This is done through what I call the crappy chop syndrome.

Let me explain.  When you are serving dinner up to the family, do you put the crappy chop, the burnt piece of meal, the mushed up piece of pie, on your plate?  Well this is the crappy chop syndrome.  What you are doing by putting the awful serving on your plate is teaching everyone else that you are less than them.  You will always take the dregs.  If there is enough ice cream for 3 people & there are 4 of you, traditionally you will miss out?  If you have special chocolate reserved just for you, do you find you end up giving it to everyone else?  Well again, another example of the crappy chop.

Without any conscious awareness, you are relegating yourself so far down the family ladder that the dog & cat come before you.

The only way to change this is to make everything overt, obvious, out in the open, make a game of it.  If you were the last person to have the crappy chop, then it is put on someone else’s plate, so everyone gets a chance to have it.  If there is only enough ice cream for 3 & there are 4 of you well everyone gets less or no one gets any.  If you have special chocolate for yourself, well it stays in your bedroom & is only for you.

By doing this, you are teaching everyone that you are an equal, that they are no more important than you.  You are taking back your power & in turn, this will start to elevate your self-esteem.  You can’t blame the family if they treat you as less than if you treat yourself that way.

One of your main roles in your life is to teach the world how to treat you.  If you treat yourself with disrespect or as a lesser being then why would anyone else treat you differently?  You have the power to change who you are seen in the world by the way you walk down the road, by the way you are always apologising for you, by the way you say I’m just a …… stay at home mum, secretary, clerk etc.  Be proud of who you are, stand tall, so people notice who you are & how great you are, because you are.

 

The quote I would like to leave you with this month is:-

If you’re lonely, get to know yourself.