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The Power of Counselling Supervision: Elevating the Practice of Counsellors
In the dynamic and demanding field of counselling, the well-being of clients is intrinsically tied to the competence and resilience of their counsellors. One of the most effective tools to enhance a counsellor’s practice and ensure they provide the best care possible is clinical supervision. This essential process not only fosters professional growth but also…
Read MoreRelationship Counselling FAQ
1. What is relationship counselling? Relationship counselling is a type of therapy designed to help couples improve their relationship. Essentially, it involves working closely with a registered counsellor to address issues such as communication problems and conflicts that can significantly affect the health of a relationship. Through this process, couples can gain a better understanding…
Read MoreRigid Thinkers in Relationships
I have noticed recently, most arguments are about converting the other person to their way of thinking. This is done without any allowance or acceptance of the other person’s thoughts, beliefs, needs, wants or desires. This can be about money t, how the children should be parented, how to make spag bol (no really!!). Most…
Read MoreInternal vs External Self Esteem
We now live in a world where speed is prioritised, multitasking is expected. And everyone feels entitled to have a say in everyone else’s affairs. What happened to respect, compassion, and minding our own business without feeling the need to opine on everything? It’s disheartening that so many people derive their identity from external factors…
Read MoreTears vs Anger
I was reflecting with my clinical supervisor the other day and he mentioned I should look into men and managing their anger. I told him I already had a theory about that and discussed my ideas with him. In principle, as a child most kids are taught how to behave or react. If a boy…
Read MoreLoss of Identity
I’ve noticed lately the amount of women I’ve been working with who are terribly angry with their partners and they don’t know why, they’re just consumed by this anger and it’s eating them up and destroying their relationships. So I’ve been reflecting on what I’ve been hearing and come to the conclusion that at a…
Read MoreI’m not a mind reader; you have to tell me what it is you want
One of the biggest issues I have when working with couples is them saying “they never listen to me”. This is something I hear in nearly ever session I have – and it’s not gender specific!!! Couples come to me with an expectation that they’ve been with their partner long enough now that they…
Read MoreHappy Wife Happy Life – NOT!!!
This is just a quick little post, this time of year most people don’t have much time to spare. Jeez don’t I hate this saying, especially when it’s misused or used incorrectly!!!!! It’s not about laying down, letting her walk all over you or using you as an emotional punching bag or door mat, for…
Read MoreNo, No, No – I said No!!!!!
Did you know that saying ‘no’ can actually lead to less stress in our lives? A 2010 Iranian study showed higher assertiveness & saying no leads to a less stressed live. Interesting! While saying no can lead to all sorts of internal talk, conflict, fear of rejection, arguments, negative reactions, it can also be…
Read MoreDepression – It’s not a one trick pony
Depression isn’t always about feeling bad, it can be emotional numbness or alexithymia (a difficulty in experiencing, expressing and describing emotional responses in words). It keeps overt depression away. Have you heard of reactive depression before? I hadn’t until recently. It’s in relation to external events or circumstances, a response to major stress such…
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