Intentional Intimacy

Intimacy necessitates a deliberate effort to carve out time and space in our hectic lives for these experiences. Given the limited hours in a day, finding that time and space and be a difficult. Recognising the importance of intimacy as a vital component of our overall well-being is crucial. Without this recognition, we are unlikely to prioritise it at all.

When intimacy is undervalued, it remains low on our list of priorities. If seen as optional rather than essential and we often fail to allocate sufficient time for it. Resistance to intimacy further diminishes its priority.

Waiting for emotional intimacy to occur spontaneously can lead to missed opportunity for connection. By intentionally creating conditions for intimacy, we can increase its frequency. It’s easy to fall into roles of roommates, business partners, or co-parents, neglecting the lover aspect of the relationship. Sustaining intimacy over time requires creativity and commitment to continually refresh and revitalise the relationship.

Creating intentional intimate connections starts with deciding to engage in intimate contact and agreeing with our partner on how to create it. These connections can be verbal, non-verbal, physical, sexual, or a combination.

Intimacy can be playful, not just for new lovers but also for long-term partners. Recognising the true value of intimate experiences can elevate its priority, prompting a rearrangement of time and energy spent on less fulfilling activities like work, TV, and electronic devices, in favour of deep, meaningful connections.

In next weeks blog I will have more information on how you can bring more intimacy into your relationships

Helpful Links for Intentional Intimacy

This is a link to the Relationship page on my website

This is a link to an interesting article on Intentional Intimacy