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I was reflecting with my clinical supervisor the other day and he mentioned I should look into men and managing their anger.  I told him I already had a theory about that and discussed my ideas with him. In principle, as a child most kids are taught how to behave or react.  If a boy…

I’ve noticed lately the amount of women I’ve been working with who are terribly angry with their partners and they don’t know why, they’re just consumed by this anger and it’s eating them up  and destroying their relationships.  So I’ve been reflecting on what I’ve been hearing and come to the conclusion that at a…

One of the biggest issues I have when working with couples is them saying “they never listen to me”.   This is something I hear in nearly ever session I have – and it’s not gender specific!!! Couples come to me with an expectation that they’ve been with their partner long enough now that they…

This is just a quick little post, this time of year most people don’t have much time to spare. Jeez don’t I hate this saying, especially when it’s misused or used incorrectly!!!!! It’s not about laying down, letting her walk all over you or using you as an emotional punching bag or door mat, for…

  Did you know that saying ‘no’ can actually lead to less stress in our lives? A 2010 Iranian study showed higher assertiveness & saying no leads to a less stressed live. Interesting! While saying no can lead to all sorts of internal talk, conflict, fear of rejection, arguments, negative reactions, it can also be…

Depression isn’t always about feeling bad, it can be emotional numbness or alexithymia (a difficulty in experiencing, expressing and describing emotional responses in words).   It keeps overt depression away. Have you heard of reactive depression before? I hadn’t until recently. It’s in relation to external events or circumstances, a response to major stress such…

Have you ever wondered why you don’t cope with things sometimes, when only last week you managed to juggle everything without dropping one ball? It’s all about having emotional resilience or emotional padding. I think if it as we are all emotional debit cards, you can’t take anything out of the emotional bank if there’s…

For years we have heard people talk about (mainly men) having a mid life crisis & how they buy flash sports cars, get fit, loose weight, leave otherwise loving relationships to start new ones with much younger women. Well the reality is that there is a rethink of our lives & it usually happens between…

When it comes to being objective about what we look like we are our own worse enemy. We don’t judge the people we love as harshly as we judge ourselves, so why do we do it and how can we stop? The media bombards us with stereotypes such as “yummy mummys”, “slim is beautiful”, you…

You find that you and your partner regularly try to talk about your problems and it ends up spiralling out of control into a full blown screaming match?  Would you like to have a civil discussion about what needs to change without it ending up in world war 3?  How would being able to stop…