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Violence against anyone is abhorrent, violence against women is even worse.  We as a society typically think of violence as something that is physically done to another.  Well verbal abuse is an insidious form of violence, it may not leave physical marks, however can have deeper and more lasting scars than anything physically done to…

Have you heard about the Love Languages? If you have you might have had the same reaction as I did, which wasn’t a particularly positive one, however when I looked into it I was actually very surprised and now am a convert of the theory. So what are Love Languages? They are the ways we…

I heard a wonderful quote recently “For women, the best aphrodisiacs are words.   The G Spot is between her ears.   He who looks for it below there is wasting his time” Isabel Allende. This got me thinking about what women really want, so I thought I’d put fingers to keyboard and enlighten those…

I know this may sound bizarre however I have noticed lately there are a lot of people (mainly women) who are teaching their families they are less than everyone else.  This is done through what I call the crappy chop syndrome. Let me explain.  When you are serving dinner up to the family, do you…

Back in December 2013 my newsletter was about tears, called the Emotional Wee, the response to that newsletter has been quite overwhelming, with people asking for more about tears.  Recently I saw a post of Facebook, of all places, and I have put a link to it below and it answers some more questions about tears, as…

Have you ever wondered why men & women have such problems communicating & understanding each other? Well it’s very simple, once you know that we all have a preferred communication style.  I like to think of the main styles as journey and destination & we primarily all fall into one of these, most of the time.…

I’ve been working with a lot with couples resently (which is my passion) & a common theme seems to be woman expecting their men to process problems & feelings in the same way they do.  This is not an option & never will be!!!  Yes I am generalising, however I have found that most couples have this exact issue.If you…

Are their difficult people in your life? Does your family drive you insane? Your boss makes you want to run away and never come back?  Well there is hope to finding new ways of dealing with them, knowing where they’re coming from can help you depersonalise their behaviour. The happy – Some people are so…

Even the best relationships have their difficulties.  Healthy, long term relationships are a result of effort and maintenance, they don’t happen in a vacuum and a counsellor can help you keep on top of any issues problems that seem to be causing angst. Find a compromise – make suggestions about what you both can do…