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  Did you know that saying ‘no’ can actually lead to less stress in our lives? A 2010 Iranian study showed higher assertiveness & saying no leads to a less stressed live. Interesting! While saying no can lead to all sorts of internal talk, conflict, fear of rejection, arguments, negative reactions, it can also be…

Depression isn’t always about feeling bad, it can be emotional numbness or alexithymia (a difficulty in experiencing, expressing and describing emotional responses in words).   It keeps overt depression away. Have you heard of reactive depression before? I hadn’t until recently. It’s in relation to external events or circumstances, a response to major stress such…

Have you ever wondered why you don’t cope with things sometimes, when only last week you managed to juggle everything without dropping one ball? It’s all about having emotional resilience or emotional padding. I think if it as we are all emotional debit cards, you can’t take anything out of the emotional bank if there’s…

For years we have heard people talk about (mainly men) having a mid life crisis & how they buy flash sports cars, get fit, loose weight, leave otherwise loving relationships to start new ones with much younger women. Well the reality is that there is a rethink of our lives & it usually happens between…

When it comes to being objective about what we look like we are our own worse enemy. We don’t judge the people we love as harshly as we judge ourselves, so why do we do it and how can we stop? The media bombards us with stereotypes such as “yummy mummys”, “slim is beautiful”, you…

You find that you and your partner regularly try to talk about your problems and it ends up spiralling out of control into a full blown screaming match?  Would you like to have a civil discussion about what needs to change without it ending up in world war 3?  How would being able to stop…

UHow often do you just want to talk about a problem and it ends up in a full blown screaming match?  Would you like to learn how to stop it escalating into a slinging match of who can hurt the other the most? Well I’ve listed below a few rules that I teach my clients…

Violence against anyone is abhorrent, violence against women is even worse.  We as a society typically think of violence as something that is physically done to another.  Well verbal abuse is an insidious form of violence, it may not leave physical marks, however can have deeper and more lasting scars than anything physically done to…

Have you heard about the Love Languages? If you have you might have had the same reaction as I did, which wasn’t a particularly positive one, however when I looked into it I was actually very surprised and now am a convert of the theory. So what are Love Languages? They are the ways we…

I heard a wonderful quote recently “For women, the best aphrodisiacs are words.   The G Spot is between her ears.   He who looks for it below there is wasting his time” Isabel Allende. This got me thinking about what women really want, so I thought I’d put fingers to keyboard and enlighten those…