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I know this may sound bizarre however I have noticed lately there are a lot of people (mainly women) who are teaching their families they are less than everyone else.  This is done through what I call the crappy chop syndrome. Let me explain.  When you are serving dinner up to the family, do you…

Back in December 2013 my newsletter was about tears, called the Emotional Wee, the response to that newsletter has been quite overwhelming, with people asking for more about tears.  Recently I saw a post of Facebook, of all places, and I have put a link to it below and it answers some more questions about tears, as…

Have you ever wondered why men & women have such problems communicating & understanding each other? Well it’s very simple, once you know that we all have a preferred communication style.  I like to think of the main styles as journey and destination & we primarily all fall into one of these, most of the time.…

I’ve been working with a lot with couples resently (which is my passion) & a common theme seems to be woman expecting their men to process problems & feelings in the same way they do.  This is not an option & never will be!!!  Yes I am generalising, however I have found that most couples have this exact issue.If you…

Are their difficult people in your life? Does your family drive you insane? Your boss makes you want to run away and never come back?  Well there is hope to finding new ways of dealing with them, knowing where they’re coming from can help you depersonalise their behaviour. The happy – Some people are so…

Even the best relationships have their difficulties.  Healthy, long term relationships are a result of effort and maintenance, they don’t happen in a vacuum and a counsellor can help you keep on top of any issues problems that seem to be causing angst. Find a compromise – make suggestions about what you both can do…

I had a client recently who I would definitely call a people pleaser. He was a very good-looking man, intelligent, articulate and a hard work. His problem was that he would continually ring his partner, wanting to know what she was doing. His partner was at the end of her tether and had had enough,…

Now that I have your attention what I would like to share with you this month is all the work I’ve been doing in recent months with couples. Over the past 7 months most of the new clients I have met with are couples struggling with how to talk to their partner and be understood.…